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Is It the Job or Is It Me?

Is It the Job or Is It Me?

Recently I started working with a new client, an executive who hated her job.She came to me because she had come to realize that being miserable at her new job felt familiar. She’d felt this way at her two previous jobs as well. This time, rather than quitting again and looking for new work, she decided that it may not be the job that is the issue. She recognized that she was the common denominator. And so, she decided to do some internal work.

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 If He Would Just Be This Way, Then I Would Be Happy

If He Would Just Be This Way, Then I Would Be Happy

For so much of my life, it looked like other people had to be a certain way for me to be happy. It really looked like I was at the mercy of others’ feelings and emotions. Sometimes it still looks that way, but not as much. I am really beginning to see that I am not experiencing others’ emotions. I am experiencing my thinking about their emotions. Yes, I do feel other people's energy. But then, what I am feeling is actually the result of my thinking about their energy.

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What If Finding a Relationship Was Like Looking for an Apartment?

What If Finding a Relationship Was Like Looking for an Apartment?

Recently, I was working with a client who was struggling with finding a relationship. I asked her, what are you good at? What area of your life is effortless? She told me that no matter what, she can always find an apartment or a place to live. It never occurred to her that she was good at this until she heard other people freaking out about having to get a place.

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Conversations from Love

Conversations from Love

The other morning I was talking to a friend and we were sharing with each other what happened in our homes over the holidays. I found myself ranting about my son on how mean he has been to me. In this moment of the re-telling, I could feel my deep anger and hurt. I could also feel my rage at him. I realized I wanted to talk to him and give him a piece of my mind!

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Why Coaching?

Why Coaching?

I have now been coaching for 16 years, and I have had a coach for myself for the past 16 years. In all of these years of being a coach, and receiving coaching, I have never actually written anything in my blog about WHY coaching? With the new year approaching, this seems like a good time to explore this topic.

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Not-Knowing

Not-Knowing

As I sit down to write my last blog post of 2020, I am reflecting on the power of “not-knowing.” I think this is one of the most impactful ways of being I have experienced all year.‍Really, staying in not-knowing means not automatically filling in outcomes, not filling in why someone did something, not filling in who someone is, not deciding how something is going to turn out before it turns out.

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