She Already Knew
Yesterday I met with a woman who found me through my website. She wanted to talk about her career.
Within minutes, I felt my yes to her — a harmonic match I could recognize instantly. I wanted to support her.
I asked if she knew what she wanted.
At first, she told me she had been a fashion stylist, even tried working at Neiman Marcus. The words landed flat, like stale bread. Everything about that job was what she didn’t want.
Then she said it.
She wanted to be a screenwriter.
Pushing to Peace
I used to live in fear.
A fear so deep it had me pushing like a freight train up a mountain—all effort, all grit, no pause.
Sparks and smoke flew off of me, burning out my energy and scorching the people I loved.
I moved like a wild woman, driven by one core belief: I was alone.
My father had died.
My mother was surviving on the goodwill of my brothers.
The man I married was sick.
And somewhere in the quiet, I made a decision:
It’s up to me. I must do it all. I must hold it all.
“ Not this Door”
Recently, I applied to attend the TED Women’s Conference in San Diego.
I was excited.
I pictured myself among a vibrant, inspiring community of women—learning, connecting, being lit up.
And then the email arrived.
“Thank you for applying. Due to an overwhelming number of applicants…”
You know how that goes.
I wasn’t chosen.
In that moment, I felt the familiar sting of rejection.
My Love of Life Energy
In a faded ballroom near the San Francisco Airport, I stood on paisley carpet, the chandeliers trembling as planes roared overhead. Richard Strozzi, a sixth-degree black belt in Aikido, had just said:
“Stop and feel your feet.”
I couldn’t.
I knew my feet were there, but I couldn’t feel them. That moment opened a doorway I didn’t know I was seeking—a longing to experience myself from the inside out.
Harmonic Match
Returning to the Quiet
A Career Coach's Reflection from Limantour Beach
Over the past two years, my partner and I have visited Limantour Beach about three times a month. People often tease me—
“Oh, what a surprise,” or “Again, really?”
But this place is more than a favorite spot.
It’s my sanctuary—and one of my greatest teachers.
Each time I visit, the light, the weather, and the birdlife change. Some days pelicans dive through the sky with wild grace. Other days, the beach feels stripped back and still. I never know what I’ll find.
That’s what makes it so alive.
And that’s exactly how transformation works—in nature and in our careers.