Energy Never Lies
✧ The Truth Beneath Our Words
It was 7:00 AM.
I was in line at the checkout, holding nothing more than tampons and Advil.
When it was my turn, the clerk smiled and asked,
“How are you?”
With my best smile, I replied,
“I’m fine.”
She looked me straight in the eye and said,
“You’re a liar.”
Fresh Eyes
When we think we know someone at work—who they are, how they act, what they’ll do—we stop actually seeing them.
We freeze them in our minds:
She’s always like this.
He never follows through.
They don’t get it.
And just like that, the relationship hardens. The space between us gets smaller.
Even when the story we’ve written about them is a positive one, we’re still holding onto the past. And that past doesn’t leave much room for anything new to emerge.
Wonder and curiosity are the doorways to connection.
Empty Space
✧ The Fallow Season: When Letting Go Makes Room for More
We as humans naturally resist letting go.
We fight with everything we have to avoid loss, to hold on just a little longer.
But what if loss wasn't the end?
What if underneath the barrenness, there was something profound and new waiting to take root?
As a coach, I have the rare privilege of witnessing transformation up close.
In the intimacy of this work, something sacred unfolds—
Trust deepens, breakthroughs arrive, and hearts open.
And then, the natural ending comes.
The work completes.
The season changes.
And I’m left with the quiet ache of goodbye.
Love your Work
What do you love to do?
What do you do that, when you're doing it, you lose track of time?
What activity brings a sense of peace, presence, and joy, not because of the outcome, but because of how it feels in the moment?
We often think it’s the thing we’re doing that makes us feel this way. But what if it’s something deeper? What if that sense of peace comes because we’ve stopped thinking? The mind quiets, and in that space, love shows up. Yes, I said it: Love appears when there is no thinking.
Pushing to Peace
I used to live in fear.
A fear so deep it had me pushing like a freight train up a mountain—all effort, all grit, no pause.
Sparks and smoke flew off of me, burning out my energy and scorching the people I loved.
I moved like a wild woman, driven by one core belief: I was alone.
My father had died.
My mother was surviving on the goodwill of my brothers.
The man I married was sick.
And somewhere in the quiet, I made a decision:
It’s up to me. I must do it all. I must hold it all.
“I’m What?”
✧ Your Unique Design
Each of us is born with a unique design—
a soul-level pattern, a way of seeing and being that belongs only to us.
It’s like a spiritual thumbprint.
No two are the same.
And when we begin to live from this inner knowing,
life flows with more ease, more alignment, more quiet joy.
When the Dishwasher Leaked: A Mindset Experiment
This week, water from my dishwasher started spilling out of the air gap and onto the kitchen counter instead of draining through the pipes.
Money’s been tight lately, so I decided to try fixing it myself. As I got started, I noticed my thoughts:
“Poor me. This is hard. Why does this always happen?”
That old, familiar victim story was running in the background.
And then I remembered—I teach mindset coaching.
“OOP’S THAT WAS ME!”
Relationships are tricky.
I’m like every other human being—
I’ve struggled in them, suffered through them, and grown because of them.
I’ve been in an abusive marriage, where I was ridiculed and belittled.
I’ve been heartbroken—abruptly cut off by a best friend over something I still don’t understand.
I’ve left jobs because I couldn’t get along with my boss.
And then, years ago, I came across a teaching called The Three Principles.
This simple but profound understanding changed everything—especially my relationships.
It revealed something radically clear:
I’m never experiencing another person. I’m experiencing my thoughts about them.
Energy Never Lies
The Truth Always Leaks Out
It was 7:00 a.m. I stood in line with a box of tampons and some Advil.
When it was my turn, I handed them to the clerk. She smiled and asked how I was doing.
With my best smile, I said, "I’m fine."
She looked me straight in the eye and said, “You’re a liar.”
I burst out laughing—because she was right.
When I asked how she knew, she said the Advil and tampons were one clue.
But mostly, it was my voice. “You sounded miserable.”
She didn’t just hear me. She felt me.
Challenging Times
We Can Do Hard Things (And We Don’t Have to Do Them Alone)
I haven’t written in two months—and it’s been a season.
My daughter had double jaw surgery, followed by an emergency procedure for a rare infection. My partner had heart surgery. In between: a sick dog, a broken tooth, failing appliances, major car repairs, and the discovery of mold and termites in our downstairs room.
And still—here I am, back at my desk, showing up to my work.
What I’ve learned is still unfolding, but I want to share what’s clear—especially for anyone navigating their own version of overwhelm, uncertainty, or burnout in work or life.
Because these lessons—about capacity, intuition, and receiving support—aren’t just personal.
They are deeply professional.
The Quicksand of Our Thinking
This morning, I set out for an early hike with a friend. We planned to meet at 7:30, but by 7:15, I realized I was running behind. I texted her that I’d meet her at the trailhead.
When I arrived, she wasn’t there. By 7:45, there was still no reply to my texts and no sign of her.
I assumed she had forgotten and sent one last message: “Sending love—let me know you’re okay.” Then I started my walk alone.
As I walked, I noticed a familiar swirl of thoughts.
I tried to be on time. Why didn’t she respond?
Then came the self-judgment:
Why am I annoyed? I should be more patient… more understanding.
There I was—in the quicksand of thinking.
Harmonic Match
Returning to the Quiet
A Career Coach's Reflection from Limantour Beach
Over the past two years, my partner and I have visited Limantour Beach about three times a month. People often tease me—
“Oh, what a surprise,” or “Again, really?”
But this place is more than a favorite spot.
It’s my sanctuary—and one of my greatest teachers.
Each time I visit, the light, the weather, and the birdlife change. Some days pelicans dive through the sky with wild grace. Other days, the beach feels stripped back and still. I never know what I’ll find.
That’s what makes it so alive.
And that’s exactly how transformation works—in nature and in our careers.
Bring Yourself
Bringing Your Whole Self to Corporate America
Twenty years ago, I felt like I had to leave my soul at the door to be part of corporate america. Looking back now, I realize that was only an illusion that I believed.
So, I left corporate america. Yes, I’ve been successful and I’ve created my own coaching business, but there have been costs. I’ve been on my own, without the partnerships that are available in companies.
When I worked in corporate america, I was just trying to survive. Now that I have a new perspective and I’ve worked with people in all sorts of roles in corporations, I’ve seen the benefits of bringing in one’s higher self and thereby inviting intelligence, innovation, and connection. Bringing in one’s gifts and intelligence will open up all sorts of possibilities.