When Life Cracks You Open: Finding What You Love in the Breaking
She came to me looking for stability.
Two curve balls had landed in rapid succession: her best friend died suddenly, and she lost her job. The ground beneath her—the ground she thought was solid—had given way.
She wanted help finding a new position. She was tired of the instability, the uncertainty, the feeling that life was against her.
I understood. Of course she felt that way.
But I also saw something else.
Life Isn't Against You—It's Breaking You Open
Daring the Career Change
Today, I sat across from a woman who told me she was looking for a new job. Her voice dropped when she said it, like she was confessing something forbidden. Then, almost in the same breath, the reasons tumbled out—why it was impossible, why it was too late, why it would never work. Her hands twisted in her lap as though she was holding on for dear life.
I Don’t Know What’s Next: Loving the Questions
Five months ago, my daughter moved out. After 29 years of being a parent, this chapter has come to a close.
When I started taking selfies, I realized I was lost.
I don’t know what to do with myself.
My house stays clean. There’s barely any laundry. The fridge is full.
I’ve spent decades raising two children, caring for a sick husband, and an aging mother. Now my life is quiet. Still.
I have all this energy — and I don’t know where to direct it.
“I don’t know” is the black water I’m swimming in.
And then I heard these words