Why An Insight Is Effective

He called me on Tuesday. His voice was tight, quick.
“It’s like my mind’s a DJ table,” he said, “spinning too fast and I can’t find the off switch.”

He had a perfect plan for the day — up early, meditate, work out, shower, coffee, focus.
Instead, he woke up, made coffee, and found himself sitting at his desk, staring at the screen. No meditation. No workout. Just static in his head and a dull ache of frustration in his chest.

When he paused, I asked gently, “Are you willing to see something new?”
He took a breath. The question landed.

We’ve all been there.
I want a clean kitchen, and yet I leave dishes in the sink.
I want to sleep early, and I’m still scrolling.
I want to skip sugar, and somehow there’s a donut between my fingers.

Wanting one thing and doing another — it’s one of the most human experiences there is.

There are countless tips and techniques out there to fix it: habit trackers, morning routines, accountability partners. Some help for a while. But the shift that truly lasts doesn’t come from doing more. It comes from seeing something new.

I used to drink six or seven Diet Cokes a day.
That hiss and crack of the can opening was my soundtrack.
Then one day, standing in a friend’s kitchen in Colorado, he told me what was in it — the chemicals, the way it affected the nerves.
In that moment, I saw it.
It wasn’t willpower. It wasn’t discipline.
It was an insight.

And what happened next was effortless.
The thought of Diet Coke no longer looked appealing — it looked absurd.
I poured the half-finished can down the sink, and that was it.
Fifteen years later, I’ve never wanted one again.
The craving was gone because my relationship to it changed.

That’s the power of insight — it shifts us from the inside.
It’s the light turning on in a room you’ve been stumbling through in the dark. The moment you see the pattern and realize: Oh. I don’t have to keep doing that.

This is what I listen into with my clients — not the surface noise of the spinning record, but the stillness inside them.
Because it’s from that stillness that insights come.
When we see something from the inside out, our behavior shifts naturally. No force. No shame. Just understanding.

Sometimes all it takes is one small moment of seeing — and the record slows, all on its own.

Reflection:
Where in your life are you trying to change through effort?
What might happen if, instead of trying harder, you allowed yourself to see something new?

Next Step:
If you’re ready to experience your own insights — the kind that bring ease and clarity where effort used to live — book a conversation with me.