Power in Listening

Power in Listening

Recently I made a new friend, Sandra Koenig. We were struck by how easily each of us listened  to the other, and the profoundness of what it’s like to be heard. Both of us are coaches and we realized that it’s very unusual to really be listened to.

When someone is really listening to you, there is nothing on their mind. Just an open heart, and no agenda. It’s a profound experience. In our discussions on the art of listening we found that most people are listening for what’s wrong, how they fit in, or how they are in agreement.

At work, what gets in the way of people being successful is that they don’t listen to each other. They are so afraid of doing something wrong that they end up listening for what is wrong.  On the flip side, a person might be so attached to success that they are only listening for what they did right.

Feeling Stuck? Change it Now

Feeling Stuck? Change it Now

A lot of people come to me because they are stuck in their career and they think that there’s something wrong with where they are. It’s kind of like having an orange, but thinking it should be a lemon.  And being pissed off and upset that you don't have a lemon. A lot of the people that come to me think there is something wrong with the current career situation they are in. That there is something better out there and they’d be so much happier if they were doing it.   

Listening to Emotions

Listening always comes first. When we listen to, are present with, and don’t run away or discount our emotions, we gain valuable insight. At the end of any emotional energy is insight: information that tells us what to do next and how to do it.

Energy is the information that guide us, and human beings experience energy through emotions. Emotions come in every color. From depression, despondence, joy, love and everything in between.